I’m not new to wearing lipstick as I used to wear it as a child, playing at home with my dolls and tea sets. I was a pretty glamorous child, with patent shoes, an obsession with denim and loved my weekends shopping for various items from Harrods etc, as long as they looked good with the new books I would read. I would pose when reading at home; as far as I knew the world was a stage and I was free to prance around like a typical spoilt child. Nowadays, not so much. The world is still very much a large and scary stage, but I do not feel confident, especially with my lips. During the course of ‘my downfall’ kids would taunt me every day about the size and colour of my lips, and I even got a horrible nickname ‘rubber lips’ from a weird kid who grew up and turned out to be one of the loneliest dude’s about town. For years I was tormented with having these lips, and most days I used to hate them. I would walk around sucking them in so no one could see. How I longed to have normal lips. To this day, I still don’t understand them and wish I could wear lip stick like other people. I have however found lip tints, and I find them to much more rewarding, even though I have two different coloured lips. Darn it!
I did wear a red lip stick once and received mixed views, but due to how much the taunting of my lips impacted on my self esteem I took heed of the bad comments more than the good ones. I just believe when someone says I have nice lips these days, I just assume they are being nice for the sake of it, and not being true. I still have this strong love/hate relationship with them. This year I intend on finding my colour and I hope to document it on my channel as time goes on, so bare with me. For now, lip tints are my thing, but I still need to find the right colour. The other day I wore Maxfactor’s tint in number 4 in Berry Burst and was told, in front of a crowd mind you, by a colleague (this girl hates me and loves to put me down in front of people just to get some sort of reaction) that I was ugly with lipstick on as my lips were too bold. Weird thing was, it was a lip tint and very lightly added. I looked at the other girl’s reaction and her face told me what was on her mind. So now I have retreated to the lipstick closet until I find a shade I like and feel confident in.
Enjoy the video below, I found it whilst surfing for tattoo advice videos…
When I was really young, I had lovely medium length hair that my mother would always plait up and decorate with bobbles. I was such a cutie! My hair grew naturally as my mother and my aunt refused to have any chemicals added to my hair until I was old enough to ask for it myself. I experimented with hair extensions during middle and upper school which was fine, as it was purely for ease.
Then I came across an article about how the darker you are, the darker your skin and the more curl you have in your hair, you were deemed ugly by the world. That hit home and I decided at age 13 never to have extensions again. I didn’t want to mould myself into a self hating woman by embracing ideals that many women battle to conform to. I wanted to be different. I wanted to have an afro (sadly I couldn’t attain one as I have strong Caucasian and Indian hair) but I wanted to be as natural as I could for as long as I could. My aunt introduced me to a hairdresser who started to curly perm my hair to give it added strength and curl. It grew even longer within 3 months. Sadly I can’t find any photos right now, but I shall show some in my hair care video =]
When i was 14/15 I ended up suffering from the first sign of depression after an event that almost ruined me. i gave up looking after myself properly and my hair slowly went back to being natural. Over time my hair fell out, I tried relaxing my hair too as my hair was just kinky rather than curly, but something went wrong. In the end, aged 18 my hair just fell off. I cut my hair really short in order to promote new growth, but back then I like how unique I looked so I kept the style for a while.
I moved to Manchester for a while, and then came back after a bout of depression, and decided I needed to focus on me. I got myself a job within 3 days of being back home and started saving to get my hair curled again. I was and still am a fan of curly perm and I recommend it to anyone with afro hair. My hair was so full of ‘other things’ that I needed for my body that the first few attempts to curl it didn’t work and my hair went back to being flat and lifeless again. It’s only been the last year or so that my hair has grown back full, longer and with more bounce. I’m half way to where my hair used to be all those years ago, as it brushes on my nape. I also died my hair for the first time late last year to a really dark plum from Live Color XXL, and hopefully for the summer I shall follow society’s conventions just once and dye my hair to suit the coming hot weather. Who knows?
Wish my hair luck =P – okay the below picture was from Christmas day, my hair has grown a bit more since…
Though I really like this video and the free folks in it. I need to do some hippie shoots…. Time to feel the earth!
I find the people in this video to be liberating and very sexy. I like people who are more than comfortable outside of the sheep zone, they are creative and free!
Burning man festival, expect me soon!
Watch the video… enjoy… and get shopping!!
I shall catch up with the various articles I’ve been writing whilst I haven’t had the internet, most on comics, movies I need/want to see, a hot crush and amazing people I’ve met via Twitter, travels and youtube. Be sure keep an eye out!
I read this on Chictopia, where I have an account and love to chat with creative fashion types [such as myself *ahem*]… o_O
Anyway, what are your views? Read the article below and tell me what you think. For me, I’m not the skinniest or the prettiest woman in the world, but I don’t mind. I love who I am, and I’m able to admit that I did and still do in some way have an eating disorder. It’s not a major health issue, but I do hate parts of my body and I wish I could look like ‘her’ [whoever the ideal 'her' is], and so I won’t eat after certain times of the day, I just drink water if I’m hungry which is BAD! Don’t do it!
With the media constantly putting out photos of thin ‘role models’ but contrasting other headlines with a worrying stance, it can confuse the hell out of anyone. I sit and compare parts of my life, personality and ideal body with many celebrities on the web, in magazines and on TV, wishing and hoping that the song ‘You’re Nobody ’til somebody Loves You‘ is true. I now know, after a ton of research, self discovery and asking around, that this ‘thin’ ideal isn’t such a good idea. If you are naturally curvy, you’ve heard it before, Embrace Them! and If you are someone who is thinning themselves away just to be noticed, then I’ll have to recite what Gino D’acampo said on a lunch time show ‘Women are beautiful… but no man wants to make love to bones.’
But the whole debate on whether the fashion industry is to blame? Personally I don’t think so, I think it comes down to individual fashion houses – one fashion house in particular comes to mind when they were asked why they didn’t make clothes for bigger and black women, and they simply turned around and said they only made clothes for the beautiful. I don’t own or will never buy anything from that company for as long as I live. Dolce & Gabbana are one of my favourite design houses, as they make beautiful clothes for everyone, of any age and any shape and I love spending money on their items, as they make me feel beautiful.
So, read the article and tell me what you think::
[courtesy of Chictopia :: KAYTURE]
“Let’s have a look back at the fifties, when women such as Marilyn Monroe had the bodies that every girl wanted. Feminine curves with generous hips drew her silhouette. In fact, the iconic actress weighed around 60kg for 1m64 (over 130 pounds at under 5’4″)!
Well, now as we can see, the beauty factors have pretty much changed since Marilyn’s sultry and shapely days. Today, we are influenced by models seen on the designer’s haute couture runways or girls posing for popular fashion magazines, both of which tend to show thin and very tall, young models. Are we influenced by the constantly changing beauty criteria? If we browse the Internet it is easy to bust into the “thinspiration” trend on blogs, which show skinny bodies or even give readers advice on how to lose weight. And if you remember a few years ago, it was almost impossible to gain success online without having endless, thin legs. So the truth is that we are influenced by the mainstream concept of beauty, and not always in a good way.
Should we blame the fashion industry for showing us that type of body, for telling us how women should look like in order to be beautiful? It is of course easier to dress up a thin girl for a runway if she has a model standard body. However, we have all heard about anorexia in the modeling industry and this shouldn’t be the image that other girls want to follow without seriously thinking about it. Let’s also not forget that not every girl can have such a body- it is a matter of corpulence and metabolism.
It is possible to be thin by having a healthy lifestyle routine. Matching daily sport to a good and reasonable diet that avoids starving is the best way to take care of oneself. So even if fashion seems fascinating in the glossy pages of magazines, it is better not to put one’s life and mental health in danger with the ideas of beauty. Staying aware of what you eat and how you exercise while ignoring beauty standards is perhaps the best solution.
With my own personal experience in the modeling world of Switzerland, it is possible to do beauty shoots, walk on small runways or have a fashion blog without being very thin or very tall. The most important thing is to be confident about your body and feel good in it by having a healthy lifestyle. Of course, I’ve received some rude messages from anonymous people saying that I have fat legs, but it is important to ignore those types of people. As long as you feel good with who you are, you do not have to adapt to the fashion rules and fall victim to the ideas of the “perfect” body type.
The skinny type has never been the one for my body. When I took part in the Miss Switzerland 2011 competition I wanted to stay true to myself and to my fitness without being afraid of what people will think about me when they saw me on television. The thing is that I could never resist my favorite desserts, and didn’t even want to try. Those are little pleasure of life— why should we avoid them?
In conclusion, let’s hope that one day fashion will reveal to us, girls that aren’t afraid to enjoy food, that self confidence resulting in a healthy and athletic body will rule not only the blogosphere but also the way that women and men interpret beauty.
by Kristina Bazan”
I loved this article so much, that I intend to do my own how-to, but without fur/faux-fur, for other items. Well, for now, click the image below to read the guidelines and enjoy!
and more on the site =]
[courtesy of Chictopia :: SYLANDSAM]
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